On the website www.businessdictionary.com the definition of manipulative behaviour is: ‘behaviour which attempts to control or play upon others' hopes or fears to attain selfish ends while disregarding their aspirations or well being’.
Young children can learn very early how to 'get their own way' by manipulating a situation. For example, by crying, throwing tantrums, stamping feet, yelling, sulking. We accept this as part of understanding boundaries and learning about right and wrong.
As adults we can also be inclined towards this behaviour in (possibly) more subtle ways to get our own way without using assertiveness skills.
Here are some outward signs of manipulative behaviour:
Recognise anyone you know?
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Making a request
Disagreeing/stating your views
Do we appear to have our heads in the sand about the impact of 2013 on our colleges? Particularly FE. Or is it just me??
What I mean to say is, some of our less enthusiastic learners will soon be populating our colleges. What measures are being put in place to help teaching and support staff to manage these reluctant learners?
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Helping those with ODD
How can we support young people exhibiting Oppositional Defiant Disorder in academic settings? How can we help them to achieve and make them ready for work?
Transition to college can be greatly assisted by offering early meetings. Enlist the support of the school SENCO to provide some off-course support and behavioural goal setting, plus a named staff member (or mentor) to go to in times of stress. Preventative behavioural measures are more successful, less stressful and easier to manage than reacting to ugly episodes. Strategies are similar to supporting or teaching learners with ADHD. These learners are disorganised and/or forgetful and may need checklists to remember items for class. Repeat directions; write them down, say them out loud more than once and check for understanding. Sometimes it will be impossible to give more than one direction at a time and only the last one may be remembered. Teachers and learning support assistants should always check that the learner understands the tasks set, however long it takes.
Some young people with ODD find it...